Destination Wedding Gifts: a complete etiquette guide!

Are you planning to attend a destination wedding? These celebrations are often as exciting as they are unique, combining romance with travel.

But, there is also no denying that destination weddings are expensive. Between travel and hotel costs, it is normal that the question "do I also need to buy a destination wedding gift for the couple?" pops into the mind of most guests. 

So you want to know how you balance the expenses of attending with the tradition of gifting? We are answering all your questions! 

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Let’s then start from scratch. First, you’ve been invited to this exciting far-flung wedding and now you are starting to plan for the trip. After all your initial questions about travel accommodations and the outfit, now you are probably wondering about the gift expectations… 

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Do destination wedding gifts have to give a gift?

While it is usual to bring a gift to any wedding, the expectations for destination weddings can be slightly different. As guests are often spending a significant amount on travel and accommodations, many couples understand that attendees might not be able to splurge on an expensive gift.

However, it's still polite to give a gift, even if it's something small or inexpensive. Consider giving a sentimental gift, such as a framed photo of the couple or a heartfelt card with a personal message. Alternatively, you could contribute to the couple's honeymoon fund or give a modest amount of money as a gift.

Ultimately, it's essential to remember that a destination wedding is still a celebration of the couple's love, and any gift given should be a token of your affection and support for their new life together.

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Should you take your gift to the destination wedding or give it back home?

When attending a destination wedding, bringing a physical gift with you may not be the most practical choice. Traveling with gifts can be challenging, particularly if they are fragile or bulky. Airline restrictions on baggage size and weight can further complicate matters. Additionally, the couple must transport all the gifts back home after the wedding, which can be complicated and costly.

Instead, consider alternatives that are more convenient for both you and the couple. You can ship the gift directly to their home before or after the wedding, ensuring it arrives safely. Another option is to give a gift card, money, or contribute to a honeymoon fund, as these are easier to transport and manage while traveling.

Ultimately, prioritize convenience and practicality when deciding on the best way to present your gift at a destination wedding. 

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What should you do when you can't attend the destination wedding?

If you were invited to a destination wedding but you won't be able to attend, it is still a nice gesture to send a gift to the couple. That shows your support for the couple's relationship. 

Select a thoughtful item from their registry or choose something personal that you know they'll cherish. Include a heartfelt note expressing your best wishes and your desire to celebrate with them upon their return.

Is money an appropriate gift?

1. Travel considerations: Traveling with a physical gift to a destination wedding can be inconvenient for both the guest and the couple. Money, on the other hand, is easy to transport and can be gifted discreetly.
2. Couple's preferences: Many couples prefer monetary gifts as they can use it to cover wedding expenses, contribute to their honeymoon, or invest in their future together.
3. Cultural norms: In some cultures, giving money as a wedding gift is common and considered a symbol of good fortune and prosperity for the newlyweds.

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What does "no gifts!" really mean?

When a couple explicitly states "no gifts, please" on their wedding invitations or website, it's important to respect their wishes. They genuinely mean that your attendance at their destination wedding is more valuable to them than any material item. In such cases, refrain from bringing physical gifts or money.

However, a heartfelt, handwritten card expressing your love, support, and best wishes for their marriage is always appreciated. This personal touch allows you to share your warm sentiments without going against the couple's request.

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Now, that you have your questions answered, there are also some tips we want to share with you. 

• Just like any other wedding - either it's close or far - respect your budget! As mentioned before, the travel, accommodation, and attire costs for a destination wedding can add up. There is no hard rule, but it's perfectly acceptable to scale back on the gift's value when you have already invested in attending. Surely, the couple will appreciate the effort you are making to celebrate the big day with them in person. 
• Group gifts can make an impact! So, pooling resources with other guests can be a fantastic way to give a larger, meaningful gift without overstretching your budget.